This morning the feminine in me wrote a note to the masculine in me asking what he needed from her to step up and consistently be available and play his part and how she could do the same and be available for him.
She asked him "Why do you not want to show up and be available here?" And he answered: "I don't know what is needed from me - what you are expecting from me. Also, the boundaries aren't clear and I'm not sure where to set them." She turned her head away, doubting if he could do this. "I'm afraid you will fail and let me fall again. I don't know if I can trust you to do this." He answered: "Well I don't know if you will show me what you need and how. And even if you'll be able to receive what I can provide." She said "Have you ever consistently been there to see, or created and maintained the safe space I need?"
And then this song came into my mind and was suddenly really relevant.